I believe that patients have tried all they know to solve their own problems before they reach out for help. My job is to help them develop new ways of viewing their problems. This in turn opens up possibilities for new solutions. I view my patients as collaborators. We are a team working together to increase their productivity and satisfaction in their lives and relationships. I also believe people make bad decisions for good reasons. This is central to my belief that most people intend to do good, but may need help in finding ways to actually accomplish it. Someone may have learned in their developmental years that it was wrong to ask for more than what you were given. Asking for more was taken to mean that you didn't appreciate what you had. So, this person gives others what they want secretly and maybe even unconsciously hoping the receiver will reciprocate. This rarely if ever actually works, but is a good example of doing something that does not work for a good reason.
I have been told I am a natural at cutting through the distractions and details and getting to a core understanding of complex problems and their solutions. Patients tell me I am soft-spoken and kind, yet always direct and to the point. I take great pride in being able to help my patients view their problems from a different perspective. i have also often been told that I am adept at taking a very complex set of dynamics or principles and simplifying them in a way that is useful and manageable. Often, this change in perspective, coupled with simplicity, allows for the creation of innovative, highly personalized solutions.