Individuals matter, children matter, parents matter and so do marriages. When one member of the family suffers the rest do as well. Parenting is important but marriages are even more so. How you treat each other is how your children will treat each other, their spouses and their children. Making joint decisions as parents helps make your children feel safer because you are righting the ship so they do not have to. You want your children to marry kind spouses. You want your future son or daughter in law to tell you what a great job you did as parents. Ask your young children what they want most and it is for their mother and father to be happy. Providing consistent interventions for your children's behavioral and academic problems is effective because by spending the time to do so shows you care. Hard work and caring for one other can go a long way in creating change for the better.
I have fought in the trenches in partial and inpatient treatment programs with children and adolescents with drug and alcohol problems as well as with adults who struggle with this disease. I have treated those with depression, anxiety and bipolar disorder when they could find no way out. And those who have suffered trauma at the hands of their parents or relatives. People have given up on their marriages when the solution was easily within grasp. I have found there is hope and happiness at the end of the tunnel, because it is remarkable how many people want to help other people. In the end it takes enough of those that care to help those who need to find that hope.